The fate of a person is decided mostly by the fact that how that person manages the priorities in his life.
For some people their family is their biggest priority, if this type of people don't get success in life they give
reason that they had to take care of their family and that is why they failed to deliver what was expected of
them.
Some people run towards a successful career. They say that the relationships are the heaviest burden to carry.
I watched a movie recently in which the actor who is giving a presentation on how to avoid commitments. He says
in our life we all travel from places to places, carrying a bagpack. Now you are the one who decide what is the
amount of weight you can carry. Then he tells to put all the things you love into the bagpack. Your toothbrush,
clothes you like, your laptop, television, your house and now try to carry that bagpack. Isn't it very heavy. You
can certainly feel the pressure on your shoulders. That is the kind of feeling you get when you want to take care
of all the stuff you have.
Now empty your bagpack and start puttting people you know into that bagpack. Start with the people with whom you
have very little acquaintance, then friends, close friends, cousins, uncles, aunts, brothers, sisters and of course
your parents. Pack your bagpack and start the journey called life. How do you feel? Isn't it heavier than what
you felt when you had your stuff in your bagpack. That is life. Taking care of people is tougher than taking care of
your stuff.
As I said earlier You are the one who decide how much can you carry. Once you start caring about the things you have
and things you want, you start adding more weight to your bagpack, without realizing that you are the one who will
have to carry that bagpack. Then if you add people to that bagpack or in simple terms you start caring about the
people you know, the situation worsens. You only get to find out this thing later when you are in the journey of
life, carrying that heavy bagpack.
Seems so true to me this whole thing. Now let us think the different way. We want to make our bagpack as light as we
can manage. Less responsibilities, less stuff, less people in our bagpack. The journey of life seems so simple and
pleasure surrounds us. What we lose is once we start this thing, not caring about people. They start not caring
about you. You are successful in your life journey, everything seems so perfect. People respect you for your
position. But what you lose is people or relationships. Those are the things which are rquired when you feel sad.
You need to tell someone, "Toay I don't feel good, can we go for a walk". And only you are the person who can make
sure that you don't hear a no in response.
Now let us talk about those person for whom their greatest priority in life is the relationships the have. They deal
with every relationship or every person they know as their family, doing for them whatever the can. But they somehow
don't end up at a very good position in their career. Now what happen is that they also lose all their relationships
due to lost of credibility among their own people. Their people take them as granted. So they lose their friends and
their careers both.
Now what is the solution?
This is the questin that come across our mind and we find ourselves unable to think the solution.
The solution again lies in the bagpack. While going on a journey you need to decide what are the things you need to
carry and what are the things that need not be carried as they can be found anywhere. You need to have a very
accurate balance between both the things; that is, relationships you hold and your career. This is not a question of
mathematics in which you have to solve an equation of two variables to find out the exact amount of both the
variables. This is not the question of History, where you can find out from some other person's experience
what is the correct balancing amount. This is not the question of accounting either, where you need to manage the
credit and debit to find the exact proportion.
In this case, you are the only person who is going to decide what will be happening with you?
Your whole life which is left is at stake. May be you are not satisfied with your life, most of us are not.
So you can start today, all you need to do is minimize your stuff yet covering all the required things, and
then start your journey again. Everyday is another day with new possibilities.
Someone has rightly said that you are not defeated until you accept your defeat.
-Regards
Yogesh Chaturvedi
